Comments on: Mommy! He Took My Toy!!

By: Brianna

Brianna — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:51:16 +0000

Shepherding Your Childs Heart is the best book for raising kids! I have learned a of great biblical advice from it! Instructing Your Childs Heart is the sequal. They are great. I love Tedd Trip.

By: Debi

Debi — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:41:20 +0000

I’ve done this with the toys, though not every one. Let me say, I’m not opposed to every single toy disappearing!

As for the TV, we sold them all at one point. Give it a day and they didn’t even miss it! It was awesome. We did have the computer to watch DVDs when I was craving the electronic babysitter (I’m prego with baby 4 and need a nap sometimes!) I have reacquired a TV now since there are some great Sunday and educational VHS tapes we have that I like. The kids have been doing well this time around.

I’m excited to hear how it goes!

By: Kendra at New Life On A Homestead

Kendra at New Life On A Homestead — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:23:34 +0000

Laura-

I LOVE the book To Train Up A Child. That is my all time number one recommended book on raising children. I haven’t read it in a few years. I guess it would be good if I take it off the book shelf and re-read it again!

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:08:06 +0000

To Train Up A Child by Michael and Debi Pearl is the best book on child-rearing that my husband and I have come across (we have read Tripp’s). It teaches that each child has possession of his own things and must learn to give/share those things with others. As Christians, we are in danger of teaching socialistic ideas, such as everyone gets to share something that belongs to one. The timer clocks for sharing that are on the market are cute–that’s how we are dragged into these socialistic ideas. God has bestowed blessings on each of us that are ours. We can squander those blessings or share them with others. This is what we try to teach our children regarding their possessions. We also try to teach them what possessions are TRULY valuable. Practically, we do take away toys that are fought over–I like Deanna’s idea of giving them back only when cherished and asked for. It is difficult in today’s society to keep those “gimme” desires in check–everyone feels entitlement–God teaches us that all things are by grace and mercy. We have considered radical changes in our home as the stuff piles up, but it is hard to have grandparents on board. I think that paring down the mountains of toys will not only get rid of stumbling block clutter but will also teach value for fewer things. God’s blessings as you seek wise training! We are right along with you in the journey!

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 11:06:01 +0000

I’m so curious how this works! My baby is too young to pose a threat to my 2 year old, but I know the day is coming. Another thing I’ve tucked away to try when that day comes (heard this from another mom). Whenever her kids would fight they had to hold hands for 10 minutes, and do everything holding hands (one hand per child). If they wanted to pick anything up, or read a book, or do anything they had to do it together (and if they fought while holding hands the time went up in 5 min. increments. She said it actually became a game, but it really did teach them to work together on stuff.
I’ve gotta say though, cc is RIGHT ON with her book recommendation. I’ve read tons of child-rearing books, and many were good. But my hubby and I read this book and the next one the same guy wrote (Instructing a child’s heart), and it totally revolutionized our child-rearing.

By: Nancy M.

Nancy M. — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:48:19 +0000

Interesting! I can’t wait to hear how it works for you! My kids are 10 years apart, so they don’t much care for the same thing right now. Good luck!